You told me so

The laws of the world we live in expect us to conduct ourselves with a duty of care and this stretches out so much that it assumes "practicality" to be something of common knowledge. To the reasonable man, ah hem, woman. 

It almost instills an instant fear. What if I am not following the law? What if this act is unacceptable by law? What if I am expected, in a situation that has gone out of hand and is beyond me, to not do what I am thinking of doing. Simply because a "reasonable" person would not do so? 

And it applies to cultural upbringings. The overarching unspoken parental expectation. From the assuming you. To your actions/control-freak nature.

There is no definite control-to-responsibility guideline. One that tells you that while things are within your control, they really are not your responsibility. That you should let things be and let the flow of cause and effect take its place. 

And to not feel guilty when things have gone haywire even when it was clearly within your "jurisdiction".

There are things you can control. But sometimes, because we care... we need to let go, not control and listen. So that others can do what they need to in order to learn. 

It is like handing over answers to an exam to a student. 

Not good. Or reasonable for that matter.

Here's to letting go but still being there.