Bottom, just bottom

You know what we do not talk about? We do not talk about the things that have not worked out. We do not talk about the non-fairy tale ending. In fact, we do not talk about the fact that life is anything but happy. I mean, it is good to be happy but there is so much bad stuff that happens that we need to talk about.

It is a daily effort to make things work. And it takes a whole lot more effort to put your needs aside for those who really matter in your life.

Not just "in your mind" kind of matter. As in, you will bite your lips when you think you are right so you can listen to what the other person is saying. Even as wrong as the thought may be or how opposed you are to it.

I get what you mean is not going to cut it. You are going to have to see what they see. Like, really see. And listen. To stop making assumptions and judgments in your head.

Even then, you are still going to have disagreements. We are only human and we will always revert back to what is most natural to us. But, the more we become cautious of it, the better we can adjust what we have learned with what we should have learned.

Sometimes you really need to fall hard to understand. Sometimes you need to feel the pain to realise what you need to do. But sometimes you just need to accept that you are not meant to know what to do. That you do not have the answers. That you are going to just have to be. There, where it is silent in your head and you know that things are not right but you are just there.

I will not say it will get better but it will change. Change is inevitable and it will grab you. You can try to resist it. Cry. Yell. Scream. It is going to happen and you do what you think you should do.

It is not the words that hurt us but the way it displaces us from what we think should be said.

If complicated situations were simple, then life would only be simple and simplemer. And I really want to say no to simplemer.

I have missed this.