Gender Bias

I am so upset at how women are treated. Women like you and me. Women who live and breathe just like everyone else.

We are told to look a certain way. Act a certain way. Think a certain way. 

When a male employee throws out a vulgar word in a meeting, they immediately turn to a female employee and apologise. Excuse me!? Do not assume my politeness for daftness. Just because I have a different set of sexual organs does not mean I need to be treated any differently. Speak as you wish, do not let my gender stop you. I am fully capable of dealing with a grown man incapable of holding a conversation without vulgarity. Just because I choose not to speak in the manner that you do, does not limit my seat at the table. Do not place me in your social stereotype! 

I have been watching a lot of reality tv and I am getting sick and tired of seeing societies that influence women to think that they need to look a certain way to gain attention and to build confidence. And women... oh women, we lack confidence so much so that we throw ourselves at men. Some of us actually believe that we are lucky because he wants us and thinks that we're beautiful. 

Give me a break! 

I am not perfect. And I will not aspire to be because that's just building on fear of what others might think of the real me. Being "perfect" but on whose terms? What about just me, right now?? This is it. This is as good as it is going to get. Damn it, this is who I am!

I go through stages. And they are horrible. Some days I feel so utterly ugly and my self-esteem goes rock bottom. And I compare myself to women who have big boobs... small waists... pretty symmetrical faces. It is so dangerous because I get so upset. Then I realise, I am so lucky to have what I have. To be able to breath... walk... function without any problems. To be able to see and have basic rights to living. To dress as I feel and to think for myself. To earn a living and vocalise my thoughts. 

If we do not accept ourselves for who we are now, do we seriously think that someone else's opinion is going to help us?? We come in all shapes, sizes and features. And honestly, I haven't been as healthy as I would like to be. But that is entirely my decision. Chocolate just tastes so good!

Do not tell me I am beautiful to make me feel good or better about myself. Do not tell me that I look skinny to put a smile on my face. I am me sized. Not aspiring to be skinny sized. Tell me if you noticed a change in the way I talk. Or the way I walk. Or the conversations I hold. Tell me you are on the same wavelength with me. Let's focus on what is really important. 

And now I realise... I realise why it is okay to be loved not for your looks but for who you are. For your heart. It is not to say that you do not look good. There is definitely chemistry there but there is also so much more to the equation. 

Now if you will excuse me, I will calm down now and read a book.